- by Jo Willcox
Bringing a new baby home is a joyful time, but it can also mean big changes in routines, emotions and attention. For many children with Down syndrome, these changes feel especially big. Predictability, reassurance and gentle inclusion can make the transition feel calmer for everyone.
One parent shared:
“My babies ‘L’ (three) and ‘O’ (eight months). What helped ‘L’ was playing with a baby doll, changing its nappy, feeding it milk, and letting him be involved with the same activities with ‘O’. He loves helping ‘O’ eat and get dressed. It was hard at first, but much easier now – they’ll even sit and play together.”
Below are some ideas, inspired by parents and early development experts, that might help your child adjust to their new sibling.
Involve your child in baby care
Many children with Down syndrome enjoy hands-on activities and respond well to clear routines. Small tasks such as choosing an outfit, passing a nappy or helping with snack time can build confidence and connection.
Role play with a doll or teddy can be especially useful before the baby arrives. It gives your child a chance to practise gentle touch, turn-taking and communication in a relaxed, playful way.
Keep things predictable
Children often thrive when the world around them feels familiar. Keeping parts of your child’s day the same – bedtime stories, snack time or morning routines – can help provide a sense of safety.
When routines do need to change, visual explanations can make things easier. Simple tools such as a visual timetable, step-by-step photos or short phrases like “First baby feed, then story time” help make transitions clearer and reduce anxiety.
Offer reassurance and connection
It’s completely normal for older siblings to feel a mix of excitement, curiosity, pride or frustration. Gentle reassurance, plenty of praise and regular one-to-one moments can help your child feel seen and valued.
Short bursts of dedicated connection – reading together, sharing a cuddle or listening to music – remind your child that their place in the family hasn’t changed.
You’re not alone
Adjusting to life with a new baby takes time, and every sibling relationship grows at its own pace. Celebrate small steps, keep communication open and lean into the support of families who understand what this moment feels like.
If you’d like to share your own tips or experiences, you’re warmly invited to join the conversation in our private Facebook groups. Every Tuesday, families come together for our Top Tips Tuesday post – a space to learn from one another and feel supported. 💛
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Community Social Media and Marketing CoordinatorJo Willcox is a teacher and author who has been part of the DSUK team since 2024. In her role, she connects daily with parents and online communities, helping to bring voices together and strengthen the DSUK community.
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